Here at Action Recovery Group we are BIG believers in helping people in recovery build a strong support system around them. This includes our programs and staff here at Action; clean and sober family members and friends; 12-Step support groups; spiritual connections, and many others.

With all of that said, there is one major support that many in recovery overlook or don’t even consider at all. To understand how this works, complete the following simple exercise. DO NOT read ahead or you will lose the effectiveness of this exercise. Just make the three entries under each section—

 

List the top three qualities you look for in a best friend—

  1. ____________
  2. ____________
  3. ____________

 

List your 3 best friends—

  1. ____________
  2. ____________
  3. ____________

 

Question—Are you on the list? If not, why not? If you’re not one of your best friends, then you are not loyal to yourself; nor committed to yourself. How will you ever be successful if you’re not a best friend to yourself? The same principles that it takes to be a best friend to someone else are exactly what it takes to be a best friend to your self!

Think about your list of the qualities of a best friend. To be a best friend it takes tolerance and patience because no one is perfect. It requires forgiveness. It takes deep commitment and loyalty. It requires not being critical, but being understanding and supportive. It takes being fun to be around. It involves service and being kind to that person. It requires being trustworthy and being the type of person that can be counted on.

If you haven’t been a best friend to yourself, it’s time to change! In the exercise above, you listed the top three qualities you look for in a best friend. You need to demonstrate these qualities toward yourself! When is the last time you were kind to yourself, supported and forgave yourself, or gave yourself a pep talk? If you haven’t been a best friend to yourself you’ve been betraying yourself. And you are in disagreement with God! “God don’t make no junk!”

 

Check out our last post—http://actiontreatment.com/2014/11/17/dont-let-the-winter-blues-trigger-alcohol-or-drug-addiction-relapse/